Are You A Constant Worrier? Here’s How To Put An End To That Before It Damages Your Bones - Save Our Bones

Is worry your constant companion? Worrisome thought patterns can become a habit, and that’s bad news for your bone health. Also, excessive and chronic worrying has been shown to have a significant negative impact on other body systems.

In today’s post, we’re going to delve into this topic, including the latest scientific research on what you can do about it.

Let’s get started!

Why Worry Matters

It’s easy to think that worrying really doesn’t do any harm. After all, we’re keeping it to ourselves, right?

That may be true for a brief episode of understandable worry, such as the day before a job interview or a presentation. But that’s not the kind of worry we’re talking about. The kind of worry that does bodily damage is the sort that goes on for long periods, and becomes irrational and chronic.

Chronic worry becomes the “lens” through which you view life events, and can lead to panic and anxiety. If these elements come together to bring about panic attacks, then worry becomes a constant consideration that dictates where you go, whether or not you leave the house, how you perceive life, and, ultimately, it manifests as physical symptoms that can greatly impact your health, including your bone health.

How Worry Triggers Physical Symptoms

Your body has a built-in stress response. It comes in handy in situations where you need to make quick decisions and avoid danger. This response is intended to occur infrequently, since it triggers a surge of intense hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. But when your stress response is triggered every day, as in the case of chronic worry, anxiety, or panic, then your adrenal glands become exhausted and your cortisol levels stay high.

You’re probably aware of how deleterious cortisol is to bones. But you may not know the science behind how this process works.

When you are under high stress, which occurs when you are continually anxious and worried, a biological process called gluconeogenesis, also known as endogenous glucose production (EGP), kicks in. Gluconeogenesis occurs mainly in the liver, and is the breakdown of non-carbohydrate substrates to form glucose for energy. One of the catalysts of this metabolic pathway is cortisol, which acts on the periosteum, the outer layer of bone, inhibiting osteoblast formation and proliferation.

As part of gluconeogenesis, cortisol causes a decrease in proline incorporation. Proline is an amino acid that gets incorporated into the bone matrix during normal remodeling, but in the presence of cortisol, this process is greatly reduced. So that’s why constant high cortisol levels wear away at bone, lowering density and increasing fracture risk.

Worry has an effect on your overall health, too. High levels of stress and cortisol disrupt the communication among the cells of your immune system, thus leaving you more susceptible to illness.1 In addition, excessive worry can give rise to the following symptoms:

  • Poor memory
  • Dizziness
  • Fatigue
  • Headaches
  • Nausea
  • Irritability
  • Muscle tension
  • Digestive problems
  • Rapid heartbeat (tachycardia)
  • Depression

Given the negative effects of worry on your health and bones, you’re probably wondering…

What You Can Do To Free Yourself From Worry

It can be difficult to overcome at first, but it gets easier once you realize that your worry is not doing anyone any good. Chronic worry does not show you “care,” it doesn’t aid your decision-making process, and it doesn’t help you prepare for the worst-case scenario. It’s easier to let go once you recognize that excessive worry is doing nothing but damaging your health and possibly even your relationships.

So now that you’re ready to give up worrying, try these nine tips.

1. Cross-Examine Your Anxious Thoughts

One of the key things that distinguishes anxious thoughts from peaceful ones is rationality. When you start having a flood of worried ideas and thoughts, stop for a moment and demand “proof” from your thoughts.

First, pin it down – identify the fearful thought, and think about what aspect of it makes you worried. Ask yourself if it’s really true, and if there is another, more positive way of looking at the issue. Think of these worrisome thoughts not as facts, but as possibilities that deserve scrutiny. Question those anxious thoughts, and you’ll find that more often than not, they’re simply not substantiated.

2. Don’t “Catastrophize”

As the term implies, catastrophizing refers to seeing only the worst-case scenario, and assuming that because it’s so awful, it’s more likely to happen. But if you hold this kind of thought to the scrutiny described in #1 above, you’ll see that it’s irrational. The nature of a possibility – in this case, the catastrophic factor – does not make that possibility more likely to happen.

Here’s an example. You develop a bad cough, and it goes on a bit longer than average. Instead of considering allergies, a respiratory infection, or some other simple cause, the anxious, worried mind constructs a scenario where you have lung cancer and only have a few weeks to live. But you don’t have any facts to back that fearful thought up, so it just doesn’t make any sense.

Instead, think of the more practical, positive possibilities first, and don’t allow yourself to get into the worry cycle.

3. Don’t Be So Quick To Attribute Success To “Luck”

A worried mind is by its nature a pessimistic one. If you do well at something and assume you just got lucky that time, then you give yourself no credit. This diminishes your accomplishment or achievement, and disengages any foundation-building for the next time.

For instance, if you’re nervous about giving a speech but it ends up going really well, you might attribute that to luck rather than competence and skill. Then the next time you are asked to make a speech, you’ve denied yourself the supportive experience of recognized past success.

The same could be said of bone health. If you are following the Osteoporosis Reversal Program and your density scores go up, your energy levels increase, and your overall health improves, go ahead and take credit! You did it thanks to your dedication to following the Program. Don’t attribute it to luck or happenstance.

4. Let Go Of The Need To Control

It may not seem like it at first, but worrying is actually a control tactic. If you worry over something and try to prepare for the worst-case scenario, it feeds the illusion that you won’t be taken by surprise. You’ve already got things “covered” and won’t be taken unaware.

The problem is, your worry has absolutely nothing to do with what actually happens! Worry does not influence the outcome of any situation. It only makes your role more challenging and difficult, and of course, it ruins your health.

One of the best things you can do to quell worry is to let go of the need to control. Accept the certainty of uncertainty, and the reality that some outcomes just take time.

5. Be Aware Of The Moment

The past and the future can seem as real as the present, but the fact remains that you can do nothing about either. Worry robs you of enjoyment of the present moment, so take back your mindfulness of the here and now, and refuse to mainly focus on thoughts about the past and/or the future. After all, you can’t take part in your past or your future, but you can take action now.

6. Stay Away From “Toxic” People

It’s worth a few minutes’ time to sit down and consider which relationships in your life are contributing to your worry. Is there someone who makes you more anxious, sees things negatively, and/or is just a general “downer”? You may need to spend less time with that person (or those people) in order to let the worry go and regain or protect your health. In addition, you may need to set limits and boundaries on the topics you discuss with toxic people, especially if you can’t avoid them (such as co-workers).

7. Allow Yourself To Worry For A Limited Time

It may sound contradictory, but actually setting aside a brief time when you allow yourself to worry gives you some control over the whole worrying process. Instead of it controlling you, now you can tell the worry to wait because it’s not “time.” What this does is create a sort of pathway in your mind so that you teach yourself to stop worrying. It starts out as temporary – “not now” – but has the potential to develop into “not ever” as you learn techniques for putting worry off.

8. Pray And/Or Meditate

Find what brings you peace, inspiration, and calmness. It might be inspirational words, calming thoughts of nature (or actually being in nature), meditation, centered thought or prayers. It’s amazing what this “re-wiring” of the brain can do to ease worry and put things in perspective.

This kind of mindful thought does not allow for self-condemnation or denial (“I shouldn’t be having these anxious thoughts!”). Rather, taking time to pray or meditate almost removes you from the anxiety – you become more of an objective observer than a participant.

9. Get Plenty Of Omega-3 Fatty Acids

There is ample evidence-based data as to the positive effects of Omega-3 fatty acids on brain health. Now, new research is shedding light on the mechanism behind this connection between Omega-3 fatty acids, brain function, and anxiety.

In a fascinating study by doctors Rhonda Patrick and Bruce Ames, the missing link appears to be the brain chemical serotonin. Their research reveals the connection between serotonin, Vitamin D, and Omega-3s.

The following is noted by Dr. Patrick:

“In this paper we explain how serotonin is a critical modulator of executive function, impulse control, sensory gating, and pro-social behavior.”2

So serotonin appears to be the link that facilitates the function of Vitamin D and Omega-3s.

The paper points out that serotonin production is dependent on Vitamin D and Omega-3s, with certain Omega-3s playing a role in the serotonin uptake pathway. Low levels of Vitamin D and Omega-3s then disrupt this pathway, negatively affecting brain development, cognition, and the ability to make decisions.

The authors conclude that:

“…optimizing vitamin D and marine omega-3 fatty acid intake may help prevent and modulate the severity of brain dysfunction,”2

More Research Links Omega-3s To Anxiety Relief

Here’s another study, where a research team gave six groups of medical students either an Omega-3 supplement or a placebo. Medical students, the researchers note, undergo a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety during exam periods.

While the test schedule underwent some unexpected changes during the study, the researchers conducted blood tests and observed a reduction in inflammatory cytokines, specifically interleukin-6 (IL-6), among the Omega-3 group. More importantly, researchers were surprised to see the significant reduction in anxiety (20%) among the students who took the Omega-3s.3

This remarkable improvement in anxiety among young people taking Omega-3s provides great hope for older adults who are at greater risk for certain diseases and cognitive decline.

Therefore, adding Omega-3s to your diet is a good idea if you’re trying to reduce the harmful effects of anxiety and worry.

Omega-3s Are Also Relevant To Bone Health

If you’re following the Osteoporosis Reversal Program, then you know the importance of Omega-3 fatty acids with regard to bone health. In fact, this topic is covered in detail in Chapter 12. Here is a quote directly from the Program (page 139):

“…omega-3s increase calcium absorption, help reduce bone loss, maintain mineral bone density, and balance bone turnover. According to a 1997 study in the journal Progress in Lipid Research, essential fatty acids ‘have now been shown to increase calcium absorption from the gut, in part by enhancing the effects of vitamin D, to reduce urinary excretion of calcium, to increase calcium deposition in bone and improve bone strength and to enhance the synthesis of bone collagen.’”

In addition, Omega-3s have been shown to work better than the popular osteoporosis drug Prolia by regulating a group of immune system proteins known as RANK-L. These proteins activate immune cells and convert them into cells that tear down bone (osteoclasts) as part of normal bone remodeling. By working with your bone remodeling process, Omega-3 supplements naturally moderate RANK-L and prevent excessive bone removal.

What Are The Best Sources Of Omega-3s?

The above research specifically studied Omega-3s from fish oil, which is found in fatty fish, such as herring, salmon, mackerel and sardines, to name a few. (I understand that vegans and some vegetarians may therefore choose to forego supplementation in this form.)

It’s worth pointing out that in the study on anxiety referred to above, the medical students received a supplement that contained four to five times the amount of fish oil found in a single serving of fatty fish.

I am often asked if I recommend a particular Omega-3 supplement, and I can now say that yes, I do have a recommendation: Nature City’s TrueOmega3™.

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TrueOmega3™ is rigorously analyzed in order to be certified toxin-free, and steps to prevent oxidation are taken throughout processing. In addition, each serving (2 soft gels) provides 818 milligrams of EPA and DHA. And TrueOmega3™ is highly concentrated, so the gels are small and easy to swallow.

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Now your worries can be alleviated on many levels – not only can you include Omega-3 supplementation in your anxiety-fighting arsenal, but you also need not worry about the purity, potency, or fatty acid content of your supplement.

Till next time,


1 Segerstrom, Suzanne C. and Miller, Gregory E. “Psychological Stress and the Human Immune System: A Meta-Analytic Study of 30 Years of Inquiry.” Psychol Bull. Jul 2004; 130(4): 601–630. doi:  10.1037/0033-2909.130.4.601. Web.

2 Patrick, R.P. and Ames, B.N. “Vitamin D and the omega-3 fatty acids control serotonin synthesis and action, part 2: relevance for ADHD, bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, and impulsive behavior.” FASEB J.. June 2015. 29(6): 2207-22. DOI: 10.1096/fj.14-268342. Web.

3 Janice, K., et al. “Omega-3 supplementation lowers inflammation and anxiety in medical students: A randomized controlled trial.” Brain, Behavior, and Immunity. November 2011. Volume 25, Issue 8, pages 1725-1734.

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  1. Maria

    I am so worry all the time, about everything and anything
    I am making my self sick.
    Please help, tell me what can I do, what can I take to help me.
    I feel so negative all the time, so stressed about everything, it is running my health, my relationship and my life.
    Thank you

  2. Nikki

    Hi Vivian,

    I was keen to purchase True Omega 3, especially as there has been recent info on the radio here in Australia re rancid oils in capsules. Unfortunately they do not post internationally. Do you know of any other brands or ways of obtaining a good product in Australia.



  3. Helene

    Love your exercise program and your general approach to treating osteoporosis. Thank you so much.
    However, I am concerned about your recommendation
    to drink distilled water since it becomes acidic
    when exposed to air?

  4. Pam

    Thank you for this article! I am a worrier both about real things & those irrational things… the damage to my bones previously was how I connected with Save Our Bones. I will try to focus my control issues on controlling my worry time. It helps to see this problem addressed and not just throw medications at it.

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Great idea on “channeling” your control to the worry time, Pam. It’s amazing how much that can help!

  5. Lynn

    I am disappointed that you don’t mention flax as an Omega 3 supply Vivienne.
    I am vegan and grind my own flax as it is usually the Omega 3 that is deficient.
    What do you think?

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Hi Lynn,

      While flax oil is a good source of Omega-3, it contains only one type, ALA. The fish oil supplements contain EPA and DHA, which are long-chain fatty acids and more beneficial to the body. In fact, your body can convert ALA into EPA and DHA, but only in increments (about 5% of ALA gets converted). So fish oil is a more bioavailable and comprehensive form of Omega-3s.

      • Alison P

        Don’t despair Lynn. There are a number of algal supplements that contain DHA and EPA and have been formulated with vegans in mind. Omega 3 from flax isn’t converted to DHA and EPA very well so vegans tend to be low in them. Opti3 Omega-3 by Vegetology is available in the UK on a 3-for-2 offer and can be shipped overseas. (I have no connection with them other than as a customer by the way.) They do a number of other vegan vitamins and in particular vegan Vitashine Vitamin D3 which raised my levels noticeably compared to a D2 supplement which only just brought me into the normal range. Otherwise Amazon in both the UK and US have a variety of suitable supplements.

  6. Cherie

    Hello Savers! Thank you again Vivian, you are right on with this. Worry is part of life, chronic worry is undeniably damaging. The best advice I ever received is TAKE ACTION. It is a miracle cure for worry and depression. Jan, my son is 26, diagnosed with learning disabilities and Aspergers Syndrome when he was 5. Used to worry myself sick. I was paralyzed with fear of what might happen to him, worried that others would take advantage of him, etc. I took small steps at first, my husband and I remain his best advocate, but he is awesome! Tell your son that there are millions of others just like him, in fact my son is a member of two groups of adults with Aspergers and has many friends, a busy social calendar, and a job he loves. Just do SOMETHING it will make a huge difference and become your norm. Absolutely reach out to organizations like The Recreation Council, Department of Mental Health, and many more, there with tons of different programs and support. May your day be filled with reasons to smile!

  7. Allison

    Why was my comment censored? Is criticism unacceptable for some reason?

  8. Renee

    Gratitude works too.

  9. Jan D

    Thanks for this. I have been a chronic worrier, having a son with Asperger’s Syndrome and a mother with Alzheimers.I have made myself ill from worrying in the past. The bit about how much you worry doesn’t help the people concerned is simple but true.And it sure as hell doesn’t help you. My son is anxious because of his condition. I tell him that if he stayed up all night and day for 3 days constantly worrying then it wouldn’t make one jot of difference to anything.The thing to do is to write it down and try to make a plan of action. Easier said than done is very true, but it is way better than just worrying.
    I am getting more omega 3s now and I do think it has made a difference to me over the last year. relaxation cds help to lower cortisol and I use lavender oil at night as well. I think that if I worry too much and make myself ill then I will be of no use to either my son or my mother anyway.
    Good vibes to everybody overcoming osteoporosis in spite of everything else. And thanks to Vivian for bringing us together and for all the information and encouragement that she gives us.

  10. Corazon

    Thank you Dr. Vivian for sharing with us about worried, after i read the article i feel better. Thank you and have a bleesed day.

  11. Linda

    Thank you Vivian for your wise words on worry. I do worry, and have all my life, but I am better than I used to be. I just received a pamphlet on BioSil….capsules or drops. Claims to be clinically proven for skin, hair, nails & bones. Increases bone collagen formation and BMD at the hip region. Have you heard of this where you live? It says “choline-stabilized orthosilicic Acid.

  12. Marlene Villar

    Good afternoon Vivian,
    A very valuable reminder, especially # 6 Stay away from
    ” Toxic ” people. This has been a very, very challenging
    for me for a long time. I have been learning to set boundaries on different areas of my life such as: physical,
    mental,emotional and spiritual boundaries. I’m still
    learning how to deal and disengage myself from the
    manipulative emotions of others.
    Thank you very much Vivian for sharing, and helping
    us to achieve a healthy bones.
    Take care always. Marlene

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      That can be a tricky one, Marlene. Good for you for setting boundaries – that can be a hard thing to do, but it sounds like you are making great progress. 🙂

  13. Janet, NC

    Hi Vivian!
    You know I used to be a real worrywart once upon a time, but not anymore thank God. I kicked that habit years ago even before I knew it was bad for my health let alone my bones.

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Good for you, Janet! Would you like to share some of the ways you “kicked the habit” of worry?

  14. Allison

    That’s right, get people worrying about worry being bone-damaging, just to add to their general stress level about osteoporosis, which is possibly already sky-high. Vivian, you MUST know this is a bunch of baloney. I’m sick and tired of every ailment that afflicts us being linked, in our compulsively there-must-be-a-fix-for-everything culture, to “lack of positivity,” failure to exercise *enough* or in the *right* way, so-called defective diet, etc. Why can’t we just accept that people with ALL types of temperament, outlooks on life, exercise levels, and food-consumption patterns nevertheless may (and do) fall prey to osteoporosis and other conditions and diseases and there’s not a damn thing we can do about it? Some might call this mindset defeatist; I consider it realism.

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Hi Allison,

      Thankfully, the self-help information is available for those who do want to apply it to their lives. It’s my mission to make it available. 🙂

    • Jan

      YES, thank you.

  15. Jan

    And what if I have a shellfish allergy? Can I take these?????

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Make sure you talk to your allergist or doctor, Jan. In the case of shellfish allergies, these kinds of supplements may be contraindicated. You don’t want to have a reaction!

  16. Jan

    Yes, What are the inactive ingredients in Ture Omega!

  17. Mcsulli

    How much omega 3isneedes daily, assuming I eat salmi at least once a week? Also , another worry I have about calcium supplements. Vivian you recommend in your save our bones book 800-1200/ day. Is that in addition to the foods we eat that have calcium? I am in the process of logging all food for a week to see how much I get thru food, now that I’m using your eating guidelines. A friend who sees an endocrinologist says he told her 1200 all sources because more than that can cause calcium in arteries. What are your thoughts? I tried taking 1200 all at once in Citicals new time release version as instructed on the bottle and after a few days I got a lot of muscle and joint pain. I stopped it altogether and it went away. Now I’m taking 600 at once in the am and tolerating i

  18. Susanna

    Thank you so much for this article!
    I tend to worry. 🙁 I will take your suggestions to heart! :0)

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      You are welcome, Susanna. Like the others who have posted with similar concerns, you are not alone. I am glad to see the Saver community being honest about their tendency to worry, and are willing to do something about it!

  19. Laura

    I don’t see anything in the TrueOmega 3 ad about how many gels in a bottle. Am I missing something? This should be prominent information.

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Hi Laura,

      There are 60 soft gels in a bottle, and 2 soft gels per serving. So one bottle should last about a month. 🙂

    • Diane

      I would also like to know plus I would like to see an ingredient label, how much DHA and EPA, how the 850 is divided between them, and what are the inactive ingredients. All this information should be as you said Laura prominent information. Can anyone fill us in on these?

  20. paul

    do men benefit from save our bone program,especially with the 52 exercises that increase bone density? Thank you for any assistance. paul

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Absolutely, Paul. There are many male Savers out there, and in fact, the Densercise classes that are set to begin in LA, California are being taught by a man. 🙂

  21. L. D.

    Greetings Everyone,
    This topic is very appropriate at the moment. I’m in my 3rd battle with cancer and doing things “My Way” this time. Natural all the way.
    Unfortunately, stress has become an ever present scurge since my husband has been displaying early dementia or Alzheimers. I find myself not eating right more than ever before. I’ve been doing well since I joined Vivian’s group here and was making good progress.
    I will sure use todays information to help me get back on track. I suspect a Magnesium deficiency as well right now having most of the symptoms. I could use some extra help with this part of my angst since I believe it could be part of the equation and not helpful. Having said that, Vivian, I could use some help with this last part if you feel comfortable doing that. You’ve never let me down yet and its been close to 6 yrs. since I joined the group.. Thanks in advance for any little tidbit of wisdom you could share… L.D.

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      Hi L.D.,

      It sure sounds like you have a lot on your plate! It is hard to take care of ourselves when we’re under so much stress, but that’s exactly when our bodies and minds need particular care nutritionally and otherwise.

      Perhaps someone can help relieve you of care-taking duties once a week or so. That would be a big help!

      As far as magnesium goes, I suggest you look for a chelated supplement so it will be more easily absorbed. If you’re concerned about deficiency, you might enjoy reading this link which covers deficiency symptoms and other important information about magnesium:

      I wish you a successful outcome in all your endeavors!

  22. June

    This is my problem exactly! Hopefully this article will be helpful. Thank you .

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      I hope this information is helpful for you, June. You are certainly not alone!

  23. Marc

    Hello Vivian

    The mental attitude we take toward anything determines to a greater or lesser
    extent its effects upon us.

    Why worry, it will probably never happen.

    • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

      That’s a very good point and a good attitude, Marc. You are right – whatever one is worried about will probably never happen!

      • janet

        Here in the UK I go to ASDA and buy omega 3 6 &9 suitable for vegetarians! I would like to thank Vivian for all the good advice she gives us! If i hadn’t found Save Our Bone a few years ago, I would still be taking bisphosphonates steroids and calcium pills! I’m 72 now and feeling good again! Even when I visit my dentist, he always asks me about the bisphosphonate!

        • Vivian Goldschmidt, MA

          That’s really inspiring, Janet. Thank you for sharing, and keep it up!

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