“What will people think?” “What will they say?”
Most of us have asked ourselves similar questions at one time or another, especially if we’re contemplating choices that go against the mainstream. We may face criticism, misunderstanding, or outright rejection from others. That prospect can induce great fear and worry.
This post’s goal is to help you get rid of all traces of that worry.
I Know What It’s Like To Face Criticism For Thinking “Outside The Box”
Some people may find “going against the flow” so uncomfortable that they prefer to blend in with the mainstream. I realize this isn’t so with the Save Our Bones community – you know you’ve chosen the “road less traveled.”
I had to travel such a road to write the Program.
When I embarked on the Save Our Bones journey, I knew I was thinking in a way that was against the established ways and methods of managing osteoporosis. And I was prepared not only to think outside the box (we’ll take a look at how that phrase got started later), but to share my thoughts with everyone by writing the Program.
Talk about making oneself open to criticism!
I recognized that I needed to stand by the principles I’d formed during my research, and find a way to move forward without the fear and worry of what others would think.
And I’ve been able to….
Overcome The Fear Of Non-Conformity
If you’re following the Osteoporosis Reversal Program, then you’ve already developed your “bone health philosophy.” You’re aware of how this viewpoint keeps you grounded and confident in your choices to follow a drug-free way of getting rid of osteoporosis. You know you’re ‘different’ from the majority.
Undoubtedly, you’ve faced (or will face) criticism and skepticism from friends, family, co-workers, your doctor, and others.
That’s why I want to help you stay strong and believe in your health choices.
Just What “Box” Are We Thinking Outside Of?
I admit, I assumed this phrase meant you were simply expanding your mind and not letting it be “boxed in” by mainstream thinking. That’s part of it, but the origins of the phrase actually go back to a method of determining creativity that started in the 1970s.
Study subjects were asked to connect 9 dots, which were arranged in a square using only 4 straight lines, without picking up the pencil. The puzzle was solved when subjects realized their lines would have to go outside the square (or box) in order to connect all the dots. Only 20% of the participants were able to “think outside the box” to solve the puzzle!
The Effects Of Fear On Your Bones
Fear and worry are not just uncomfortable. These emotions can actually harm your bones.
When you experience fear and worry over the long term, it is very stressful. Chronic stress causes your body to release stress hormones (such as cortisol) continually into your bloodstream. Over time, high levels of cortisol decrease bone density.
So it’s important that when you refuse harmful osteoporosis drugs (here are the top 5 reasons why you should), you shouldn’t get stressed by worrying about what others think.
5 Ways You Can Overcome The Fear And Worry Of Unconventional Choices
I want to share some practical ways you can be confident in your choices to do what’s best for your health and your bones, even if it goes against the beliefs of mainstream medicine.
1. Acquire Knowledge
If someone questions your methods, choices, or beliefs, it’s unnerving if you don’t have an answer for them. Acquire all the information and knowledge you can about your choices, so you can answer the questions of skeptics. Not only will you be confident and have ready answers for your decisions, but you may inspire some “converts”!
2. Recognize The Value Of Uniqueness
Have you ever thought about why you want to be like others? Could it be because you admire their individuality and want to be like them? Ironically, that makes you a follower…not at all like that person you look up to, who is so admirable because he or she was not afraid to go against the mainstream.
To truly discover your individuality, you need to recognize the value of your unique personality, thoughts, and approach to life – and embrace them.
3. You Are Not Responsible For Others’ Opinions
People are responsible for their own thoughts and opinions, not you. It’s a tremendous relief when you realize you don’t have to get others to think the same way as you do. You are responsible for your own choices, but not for others’ reactions to those choices.
4. Think In Terms Of Positives
This is different from simple “positive thinking.” Thinking in positives means focusing on what you do want to accomplish rather than what you want to avoid.
For example, instead of thinking, “I don’t want my doctor to stop treating me if I choose to be drug free,” think, “I want to be drug-free, and I can choose another doctor if I want to.” You have to decide who you want to be, and determine to be comfortable with it.
5. You Really Don’t Know What Others Think
If you stop and consider it, you really have no way of knowing what people are thinking about you. Even if someone questions you, you can’t assume they are being critical. They may simply be curious. And if they are critical, remember: that’s not your problem. It’s theirs.
Ultimately, other people are the ones missing out if they refuse to think outside the box. Remember, you’re the one who is reaping all the bone-healthy benefits of taking the road less traveled. And please share your experiences with our community by leaving your comments below.
Be confident in your choices!